Face it. Many of us go into marriage without truly thinking it through. We all have a self-protective mechanism, and most of us will do whatever it takes to feel safe. If we were raised in healthy environments, and developed the ability to have honest relationships with other people, we usually make healthy decisions.
However, some of us, for one reason or another, have trouble making a commitment for the right reasons. Because marriage is supposed to be “forever,” it’s one of the most important commitments. Yet so many of us enter marriage for the wrong reasons. Here are some bad reasons why people get married, and some common marriage problems that can occur as a result.
In other words, the next person to pay you any sort of attention is not the person to marry or start a relationship with. First, you have to understand why you are lonely and sad. What is the void missing in your life? Start getting comfortable being alone first. Then do some soul searching and figure out who you are and what you really want. Don’t enter a relationship simply because you will be alone. It will end up making you feel even lonelier in the long run.
The Huffington Post argues that, “the length of a relationship is not a measure of its long term success.” More pertinently, just because you’ve been together “forever” does not mean you need to get married. Maybe you’re in the relationship for the wrong reasons. Taking the “next step” is only going to amplify those wrong reasons.
The old adage “Money can’t buy happiness” is just as true now as it always was. Yes, money and financial stability in a marriage can make things easier. It can allow you to have more freedom, and you can provide your children the opportunities you didn’t have. But if there is not a solid foundation for the marriage, marrying for money is one of the primary things to be cautious about before marriage.
There are many false reasons for marriage, and certain red flags before marriage that should raise your eyebrow. If you truly love your partner and see yourself building a life with them, through richer or poorer, till death do you part, then you are marrying for the right reasons.
Everyone wants to find stability. It’s often the primary reason why people rush marriage. But it’s not enough of a reason to take that vow. It will only create more problems later on, and perhaps lead to a divorce. If you want a happy marriage, marry for the right reasons, and make sure you know what you’re looking for in a partner.