Previous research that we’ve conducted here at iDivorceForms.com (IDF) has indicated that women choose to file divorce papers around 64 percent of the time. In most of these cases, the women earn more money than their male counterparts, and according to other studies from outside of our company, they deal with the fallout in a more healthy manner.
Now in a report commissioned on behalf of the UK’s Legal Services Board, we’ve discovered that the trend holds true in the seeking of outside help, revealing that part of the reason women are more apt to thrive after the divorce forms have been finalized is that they seek the proper assistance while men choose to go it alone.
According to the findings, 64 percent of women seek advice and assistance compared to less than half of men (at 48 percent). Nineteen percent of the guys prefer to go it alone without help of any kind compared to 11 percent for women.
Rachel Edwards Barrott of The National Family Law Practice in Wirral walks us through this trend: “Our experience suggests women are more likely to make an appointment early on to find out what their options are. An initial consultation is free, confidential and no correspondence will be sent to your address unless you specifically ask. Men tend to wait until divorce is inevitable and this can put them at a significant disadvantage.”
(While UK and US divorce laws can differ, this holds true in both countries. Even when seeking help with an uncontested divorce, those initial consultations are usually free.)
Barrott continued: “It’s incredibly important to seek advice early on, especially if you have children, joint bank accounts, joint assets or still living together. Even if you haven’t decided to divorce, do you want your wife or husband rifling through your paperwork whilst you are out? Do you want to run the risk of your joint bank account being emptied or credit cards maxed out on a spending spree? What would happen if you were to die or became seriously ill — would you want your life’s worth or insurance policy to be left to your wife or husband?”
‘A Conversation We Have More Often With Men’
Barrott acknowledges that divorce can be an “incredibly difficult” time, but believes women place themselves in a stronger position because they’re able to cut through the tough part and take practical advice early in the process.
“Many conversations start with the sentence ‘If we had spoken earlier we could have …’ and unfortunately it’s a conversation we have more often with men,” she said.
Why do you think that men are so reluctant to get divorce help?