When the divorce papers are final, you have an opportunity to let go of the restraints of your past marriage and live and date in the way that you would like. It’s a great time to experiment with the people you date, and for the older women of Reddit, it’s a chance to play with the age factor and see if they can find happiness with someone out of the “normal range.” In a recent thread on the popular website, women weighed in on their relationships with much younger men. Their responses might surprise you, and provide some food for thought as you get back out there after your divorce forms are final.
1. One woman was dating a man 15 years younger than her. Ultimately, it didn’t work out because “He was into drugs and ‘younger person party life’ and I was grown past that except for the occasional time here and there. I felt he was sincere in his feelings but felt he was way too naïve to understand my vision of marriage … and I wasn’t willing to ‘take a step backwards’ in my own development I guess.”
2. A second woman was 18 years older than the person she dated, though she admits she dated more than one younger man after the divorce. “Most of the younger guys that I dated were very sweet, lovely people, who it was fun to be with for a limited length of time,” she said. “I wouldn’t say that any of them were necessarily ‘immature,’ but they were definitely more comfortable with older women, which often got a bit weird. Of course it’s fun going out in public (or in private) with a hot young guy, but it also gets a bit wearing if you happen to talk about something in your past, and they’re all, ‘My mom/grandma loves that too!'”
3. A third woman who was 46 dated a 30-year-old and had this to say. “I was at times annoyed with him but tried to give him a chance. I tried to look at him as a ‘breath of fresh air’ or a ‘new perspective.’ The age gap, the maturity level, and the disparity of life experiences was just too wide for it to continue.”
4. And finally, this woman married a man 17 years her junior. So far, it’s going well “because he isn’t a guy who likes to go out and get drunk, he likes to stay home and play video games. I have 4 older children and he plays with them, and plays Magic with them. He is more like an older brother, I don’t have him do any of the disciplining, etc. We have a 2 year old together and he is a good dad. I stay home with the baby and take college classes, so besides the older kids and me being older, we are in similar stages of life, trying to figure out what we want to do when we grow up.”
While you may be here because you’re interested in an uncontested divorce, have you given any thought to dating someone far younger than you? What are you looking for in another person? Does age matter?