If you’ve recently finalized divorce forms, there is a temptation to get back out into the world and see what the dating scene has going on. No one can fault you for wanting to put a little more excitement into your life, but you shouldn’t rush it. Your online dating profile should be accurate and honest, and if it is, it will be a reflection of yourself. You want that reflection looking the best it can look when the time comes to ask someone out (or accept a date).
In that spirit, here are some of the biggest mistakes cyber-daters make with their online profiles. (Hat tip to Huffington Post.)
Most guys and girls want to be with someone they connect with; someone who is intelligent and a good conversationalist, preferably. However, if you’re not proofreading your profile and it’s chockfull of mistakes, then it will probably attract a similar personality type. While that isn’t necessarily a bad thing, it is if you consider yourself an intelligent person and you’re looking for the same in someone else.
Seriously, don’t do this, especially if you’ve already filed divorce papers once. It’s enough just to check the “Divorced” option on your relationship status. Don’t launch into gory details about why the marriage or past relationship ended. It will make you seem either whiny or bitter (or both). There will be plenty of time to talk about the relationships if your date asks.
Be original. No one wants to hear a bunch of corny pickup lines. (This goes for your first correspondences with someone new as well.) No “that’s the way the cookie crumbles,” no “I’m looking for Mrs. Right,” no “knight in shining armor.” Ugh.
Fibs And Lies.
In the world of the online dating profile, there really isn’t a difference between either one. If you start out lying to someone on an online dating profile, they’re going to question whether they can believe anything you say face-to-face, and that is not good for a long-lasting relationship.
Don’t try to be mysterious. Fill in all the blanks. Be honest, but don’t reveal too much. Just ask yourself, “What if I just met this person and he/she was asking me this? How would I respond in a few words?”
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