Texting is a tool that has made it easier to communicate with loved ones or co-workers without drawing too much attention away from our productivity. However, it can also ruin an otherwise healthy relationship and lead to divorce papers. The threat is undeniable, and it’s likely to affect your relationship or marriage in a negative way if you engage in the following behaviors:
Chances are, if you can’t talk to your partner about the text message exchange you shared with a co-worker, then it’s one that shouldn’t be happening. (Surprise party planning the only exception that comes to mind.) The problems with secret texting? There are many. For starters, it makes it easier for you to hide other things from your spouse, creating a barrier between the two of you that only grows thicker with time. Secondly, you’ll eventually get caught, and your partner’s suspicions will naturally be aroused because you’re being so mysterioso about what you’re doing. Thirdly, it’s just rude and not very respectful of your partner’s feelings.
Texting As Counselor
If you’re texting about issues that could lead to divorce forms between you and your partner, then you are betraying the relationship, plain and simple. Your text messages should not become a therapy session via data plan. If there are issues, they should be addressed with your partner. If your partner refuses to take part in resolving the issues that are troubling the relationship, then consider filing an uncontested divorce. Just don’t bring someone else into it via text message. It will only lead to trouble.
Maybe you’re of the belief that it’s not cheating if nothing physical has happened between you and the party on the other end. That’s pure rationalization. If you’re flirt-texting, you’re either cheating, or you’re making it a lot easier to cheat, period, and neither are healthy for your relationship. Flirt-texting often starts as a way of building up your ego. It’s far better to work on the issues that are requiring that ego boost from within the confines of your relationship. If you’re not willing to do that, then it’s probably the beginning of the end. We’ve never known anyone who was a chronic flirt-texter that didn’t end up taking their texting relationship to the next level. You won’t be the first.